The current hot topic of domestic abuse in the media, the country, is being bandied about like a poorly played badminton game. It's a game of hits and misses based on one's ability to predict the power needed to return a serve without that serve being fouled.
Our discussion is fouled with the Ray Rice incident. We have entered the court of public opinion and the opinionated are championing their views to validate what? Their intelligence? Their compassion? Has it become another media game for ratings? It appears so.
Our society apparently needs to see this as the ratings wars are bearing fruit. We are watching the sad video, listening to other victims, taking sides and taking up the topic of domestic abuse...again. It is a story that is unending. The weak are preyed upon by the strong in a society that values strength. After all, we are questioning the strength of the victim now.
Why isn't she standing up and leaving? Shouldn't she take responsibility for her life? But that is the crux of the problem.
Abuse. Response. Ability. Her ability to respond in a sane, mature manner has been stymied by a predictable story of "love."
Rather than enter the same venue as the pundits, I will instead say with full authority that the "love story" she is NOT involved in is the love for herself. But I think it will come for her one day as it has for so many others. When the bottom is hit and hopefully, she survives it, she will find the strength to love herself and detach from this relationship.
Her RESPONSE will occur because her ABILITY to save herself comes with self-love...something that so many of us women learn about later rather than earlier.
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